A very common conversation I have, with myself and others, is how to move towards healing. Sometimes we do years and years of work only to still feel stuck. We try thinking positive and we try to forget and forgive and we try to grow spiritually. We wear tons of healing crystals to protect ourselves from negativity and we visit mediums and psychics for readings trying to discover the answers.
And yet we still feel stuck!
Here are 3 quick tips you can use to help release what no longer serves your and move towards healing:
1. Name it:
Sometimes the hardest part is getting down to the root of the challenge. Most of the time it’ll relate back to something that happened or was said to us as a child. This can be spoken/unspoken – conscious/unconscious. How to figure it out is the ask why: Why do I feel this way? Why did I react that way? and ask until you understand. Then ask Who: who said that was the way to do it? Who said you were that? Who gave you permission? Who didn’t give you permission?
When you get no more answers look and evaluate … then ask your inner being if there’s anything else.
2. Claim it:
Now that you have an understanding of what’s REALLY going on, you have to own it. If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, what actions or behaviors do you exhibit that are in alignment with that dysfunction. If you had a horrible relationship or breakup, what actions or behaviors contributed to the breakdown?
THIS IS NOT ABOUT BLAME!!! Let me be very clear that this process is about understanding from a place of non-judgement. So many times we want to blame – blame others for hurting us, blame ourselves for being naive, etc. You stay stuck with those thoughts. Claiming is about understanding the actions and behaviors as part of the journey and a learning opportunity, even maybe a deeper understand of who we are.
What can you take ownership of? And how does/did it serve you? Fear, for example, keeps us safe. But if allowed to take over it will paralyze our actions. Understand what part of the experience it played a very critical role and how it no longer needs to serve that purpose.
3. Forgive it:
Once you have done the emotional, mental, spiritual work of steps 1 & 2, you are ready to move into forgiveness. This was very challenging for me personally. But I was focused on those who had hurt me or those who had wronged me in some way. I should have started with myself first.
What can you forgive yourself for today? For not seeing the signs, for being naive about someone, giving people power to harm you maybe?
Here’s what you need to understand: you didn’t know what you didn’t know and you did the best you could with what you had.
Read that sentence again!!
The experience serves as a way for you to grow in understanding, compassion, and inner strength. Embrace those things fiercely and forgive yourself.
Take a deep, deep breathe and as you exhale release all the hurt … all the resentment … all the pain.
Take another deep, deep breathe. Release the things that no longer serve your or make you happy.
Inhale the white healing power of Divine/God/Source and allowing it to flow through your body … again and again until you feel that energy completely in every cell.
Repeat these as many times as you need.
Love, Light & Blessings to you!