Perfectionism is one of the characteristics of addiction. Its the setting up of abstract, external ideals of what we should be or what we should be able to do and has little or no relationship to who we are or what we need to do.
In trying to be the perfect wife, mother, employee, friend, we batter, judge, and distort ourselves. No matter what we do or how we try, it’s never enough. We are never enough. Trying too hard and never trying at all are the two sides of the coin of perfection. Unfortunately, it’s a coin that never pays off.