How much time and energy do you spend creating the impression you want others to see?
We believe that if we just dress right people will thin we’re professional, intelligent, competent, and in control. We think they will think we are attractive, sexy, desirable and worth knowing. We think that if we are just caring, understanding, and constant enough someone will want to be with us … love us.
We fear someone that people might see through our facade and discover the real us. We’re afraid that if people really knew who we are, they’d have no interest in us. We believe our facade keeps us safe.
Of course, if someone falls in love with your facade, they aren’t loving you – they’re only loving your image you’ve created.