“For years I have endeavored to calm an impetuous tide – laboring to make my feelings take an orderly course – it was striving against the stream” – Mary Wollstonecraft
When my sisters and I were young, we were not allowed to express emotions. No crying, no anger, no joy – feelings were not permitted! Unfortunately, it’s been proven that it is not possible to suppress our feelings: when we push down anger, joy goes with it; when we push down rage, tenderness goes with it.
As adults, we are often told that our anger must be appropriate, non-offensive, justified and expressed in just the right way. Really?!? Like Mary states “it was striving against the stream”. When we ignore and suppress our feelings, eventually they come out in frightening, wild and sometimes destructive ways. When we process and express our emotions and feelings as they occur, we have a more balanced approach to being heard.